On the other hand, narcissism is marked by grandeur and vanity. The narcissist thinks he is more beautiful, smarter, fitter and more worthy than his spouse, which leads him to believe they have the right to cheat. And the fact that they believe themselves to be more beautiful, smarter, fitter, and more worthy than their partner may lead them to believe that they have a right to use them exclusively for their own sexual pleasure. (Sexual narcissism itself can be considered a type of narcissism.)
Interestingly, although they may exhibit the same unsavory social behaviors, sociopaths and narcissists are two very different comrades. This handsome narcissist across the cafe is probably somewhat neurotic, with a deep underlying lack of confidence, resulting from an insecure attachment to the primary caregiver in early childhood. Beneath their confident exterior, they may secretly suffer from excessive worry, guilt, and anxiety.
Meanwhile, the docile and deceptive two-seat sociopath is much more detached, resulting in an avoidant attachment to his primary caregiver, if he had one. People with a attachment style avoiding find it difficult to relate to, trust and rely on others. In fact, they look for relationships that are more likely to be distant and less emotionally demanding. Their early bonding experience likely involved a distracted or dismissive bossy parent who failed to meet their needs. As a result, they seek solace from those who are less intimate and engaged in their relationships. And an extramarital affair perfectly avoids the threat of intimacy in a sexual relationship, which explains the link between avoidance of attachment and infidelity.
Meanwhile, the narcissist may crave and desire the intimacy that was lacking in his early attachment to his parent, and he may very well be lacking in his current relationship with his partner.
Studies show that the sociopath and the narcissist tend to have more lenient attitudes towards infidelity than the typical Gallup answering machine. They tend to be more permissive about sex, have a greater desire to have casual sex, and are more willing to have sex without emotional engagement. They tend to be dominant in their relationship with their spouse, to have a greater propensity for sexual arousal (in reference to the frequency and intensity of sexual arousal), to be sensation seekers (referring to both exciting and potentially dangerous situations) and scoring points. higher on psychological measures of impulsivity, or the inability to control one’s actions.
Marital relationships resulting from the early bonding patterns of sociopaths and narcissists tend to include poor problem-solving models, lack of coping skills, little consistency, low mutual respect, and poor communication skills. Additionally, satisfaction with time spent together, satisfaction with physical appearance, and social prestige are all lower in marriages containing either sociopaths or narcissists.